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I offer remote sessions via Zoom.

I offer sessions between these hours:

Mondays 9am - 7.30pm 

Tuesdays 2pm - 7.30pm (Online only)

Wednesdays 9am - 4pm

Thursdays 9am - 4pm

Fridays 9am - 4pm

For Individual Therapy (Adults)

In our work together we can focus on difficulty in relationships, reducing anxiety or depression and improve confidence and self-worth. This model of therapy is very well suited to those who are stuck in the cycle of suppression, avoidance or reactive emotional escalation. EFT can create greater connection with self and others. What may have felt frightening, unacceptable, painful or stressful, can become manageable and with curiosity and compassion, can be overcome.

I draw on the positive growth potential that I know you possess. My focus is on what you experience in the here and now and on understanding how your formative relationships have impacted on your present day interactions.

We focus on your emotions to understand how you feel, what your life experiences have meant to you and how your emotions guide your behaviour. Together we explore your thoughts, feelings, motivation and actions. I believe that lasting change happens when your emotions are addressed.

This model is based on attachment theory and in our sessions together, we will explore your, needs and fears and your deepest longings. We create a safe holding space that enables you to revisit difficult events, emotions and vulnerabilities. We can consider the attachment styles that impact how you see yourself and others in your life. Working in this way is where the deep and growthful change occurs.

Couples Therapy

I offer couples therapy using the Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) model which is rooted in attachment theory. We often find that relationship difficulties arise when couples experience emotional disconnection. These disruptions can lead to persistent negative cycles that become challenging to break. Using EFT I aim to help couples navigate these patterns, re-establish a secure connection, and foster a healthy, loving bond.

Individual Therapy (Adults)

In our sessions I will offer a warm and empathic place to work, where you will feel gently held and understood. I will work towards hearing your story, without pathologising or categorising you, your uniqueness will be respected.

We will explore what has happened in your life, the challenges that you have faced and how you have learned to cope with those challenges. Whatever methods you have chosen, we will reflect, validate and honour what you have been through.

I will attune with the emotions that arise for you, and get a sense of the deeper feelings that may be outside of your everyday awareness, maybe the ones that get bypassed because they feel unacceptable to you.

We slow things down enough to hear the emotions and what their call to action has been for you, making sense of your emotional process and organising it so that you can see clearly what happens for you when you are feeling vulnerable, or when the world tells you that you’re not good enough.

We make sense of the emotions and of any blocks that may have got in the way. We acknowledge and feel in to the new space that the encounters have created. Further processing and validating, we consolidate what you have achieved, celebrating your experience, courage and openness,

In Couples therapy:

We will ask the following questions

Do you and your partner truly understand and value each other? Are your arguments often critical or defensive? Are you caught in a cycle of negative interactions? Do you withdraw and stop communicating for days when feeling undervalued? Do you feel your partner will be there for you when you need them most?

During our work together, I take a neutral stance and observe the process between you. I understand that safety and trust issues exist within a distressed relationship and so I support you by creating a safe, supportive environment where there is no judgement.

Individual therapy

We will meet for an initial assessment, where I will ask questions about your childhood relationships, what was modelled to you and how you sought and received comfort in those relationships. Together we will get a sense of what your attachment styles have been and how things have played out in your adult relationships within the family, romantically or work and friendships. Together we will get a sense of where the pain is.

Couples Therapy

In our first session we will meet together to discuss what brings you to therapy. Both partners will have the change to have their say. We will discuss how you met, how long you have been together, what your strengths are and together we will explore where things started to go wrong.

The second and third sessions involve me meeting you individually to discuss your relationship history, going back to your childhood to understand your experience of attachment relationships.

In the fourth session, we meet altogether and discuss your shared goals for the therapy. For the remainder of the sessions we will all meet together.

Sessions can be 60 minutes or 90 minutes. 

I generally offer online sessions between these hours:

Mondays 9am - 6pm

Tuesdays 2pm - 6pm

Wednesdays 9am - 3pm

Thursdays 9am - 3pm

Fridays 9am - 3pm 

For Individual Therapy (Adults)

In our work together we can focus on difficulty in relationships,  reducing anxiety or depression and improve confidence and self-worth. This model of therapy is very well suited to those who are stuck in the cycle of suppression, avoidance or reactive emotional escalation. EFT can create greater connection with self and others.  What may have felt frightening, unacceptable, painful or stressful, can become manageable and with curiosity and compassion, can be overcome.

I draw on the positive growth potential that I know you possess. My focus is on what you experience in the here and now and on understanding how your formative relationships have impacted on your present day interactions.

We focus on your emotions to understand how you feel, what your life experiences have meant to you and how your emotions guide your behaviour. Together we explore your thoughts, feelings, motivation and actions. I believe that lasting change happens when your emotions are addressed.

This model is based on attachment theory and in our sessions together, we will explore your, needs and fears and your deepest longings. We create a safe holding space that enables you to revisit difficult events, emotions and vulnerabilities. We can consider the attachment styles that impact how you see yourself and others in your life. Working in this way is where the deep and growthful change occurs. 

Couples Therapy 

I offer couples therapy using the Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) model which is rooted in attachment theory. We often find that relationship difficulties arise when couples experience emotional disconnection. These disruptions can lead to persistent negative cycles that become challenging to break. Using EFT I aim to help couples navigate these patterns, re-establish a secure connection, and foster a healthy, loving bond.

Individual Therapy (Adults)

In our sessions I will offer a warm and empathic place to work, where you will feel gently held and understood. I will work towards hearing your story, without pathologising or categorising you, your uniqueness will be respected.

We will explore what has happened in your life, the challenges that you have faced and how you have learned to cope with those challenges. Whatever methods you have chosen,  we will reflect, validate and honour what you have been through. 

I will attune with the emotions that arise for you, and get a sense of the deeper feelings that may be outside of your everyday awareness, maybe the ones that get bypassed because they feel unacceptable to you. 

We slow things down enough to hear the emotions and what their call to action has been for you, making sense of your emotional process and organising it so that you can see clearly what happens for you when you are feeling vulnerable, or when the world tells you that you’re not good enough.

We make sense of the emotions and of any blocks that may have got in the way. We acknowledge and feel in to the new space that the encounters have created. Further processing and validating, we consolidate what you have achieved, celebrating your experience, courage and openness, 

In Couples therapy:

We will ask the following questions

Do you and your partner truly understand and value each other? Are your arguments often critical or defensive? Are you caught in a cycle of negative interactions? Do you withdraw and stop communicating for days when feeling undervalued? Do you feel your partner will be there for you when you need them most?

During our work together, I take a neutral stance and observe the process between you. I understand that safety and trust issues exist within a distressed relationship and so I support you by creating a safe, supportive environment where there is no judgement.

Individual therapy

We will meet for an initial assessment, where I will ask questions about your childhood relationships, what was modelled to you and how you sought and received comfort in those relationships. Together we will get a sense of what your attachment styles have been and how things have played out in your adult relationships within the family, romantically or work and friendships. Together we will get a sense of where the pain is. 

Individual therapy costs £70 per hour 

Couples Therapy 

In our first session we will meet together to discuss what brings you to therapy. Both partners will have the change to have their say. We will discuss how you met, how long you have been together, what your strengths are and together we will explore where things started to go wrong.

The second and third sessions involve me meeting you individually to discuss your relationship history, going back to your childhood to understand your experience of attachment relationships.

In the fourth session, we meet altogether and discuss your shared goals for the therapy. For the remainder of the sessions we will all meet together.

Sessions can be 60 minutes or 90 minutes. 

Couples therapy costs £125 per hour 

I offer remote sessions via Zoom between these hours:

Mondays 9am - 7.30pm

Tuesdays 2pm - 7.30pm

Wednesdays 9am - 4pm

Thursdays 9am - 4pm

Fridays 9am - 4pm

For Individual Therapy (Adults)

I am an emotionally focussed therapist (EFT) and so I have a particular interest in emotions, attachment and relationships. In our work together, we can focus on how your relationships with others and or with yourself, may have created anxiety or depression.  We can also address what might be impacting your confidence and self-worth. 

EFT is helpful to those who suppress, avoid or react and rapidly emotionally escalate. EFT creates greater understanding and connection with self and others. 

During our therapy, what may have felt frightening, unacceptable, painful or stressful in life, can become manageable and with curiosity and compassion, can be overcome.

I draw on the positive growth potential that I know you possess. My focus is on what you experience in the here and now,  and how your emotions guide your behaviour. Together we explore your thoughts, feelings, motivation and actions. I believe that lasting change happens when your emotions are addressed.

This model is based on attachment theory and understanding how your formative relationships have impacted on your present day interactions. We consider the attachment styles that impact how you see yourself and others in your life and the meaning you make of your life experiences.

In our sessions together, we will explore your, needs and fears and your deepest longings. We create a safe holding space that enables you to revisit difficult events, emotions and vulnerabilities. Working in this way is where healing and deep and growthful change occurs.

Couples Therapy

I offer couples therapy using the Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) model (so, much of the above description applies to couples therapy too!)

We often find that relationship difficulties arise when couples experience emotional disconnection.

Using EFT for couples,  I aim to help couples identify and navigate negative patterns of relating, we work together to re-establish a secure connection, and foster a healthy, loving bond.

Individual Therapy

In our sessions, I offer a warm and empathic place where you will feel safely held and understood. I will hear your story, without pathologising or categorising you, your uniqueness will always be respected.

We will explore what has happened in your life, the challenges that you have faced and how you have learned to cope with those challenges. Whatever methods you have chosen, we will reflect, validate and honour what you have been through.

I will attune with the emotions that arise for you, and get a sense of the deeper feelings that may be outside of your everyday awareness, maybe the ones that get bypassed because they feel unacceptable to you.

We slow things down enough to hear the emotions and what their call to action has been for you, making sense of your emotional process, organising it so that you can see clearly what happens for you when you are feeling vulnerable, or when something in your world tells you that you’re not good enough.

Part of the process involves making sense of your emotions, (or feelings of being emotionless or disconnected),  and we acknowledge the blocks that may sometimes get in the way.  

You can reflect on and encounter with events, incidents or past conversations with important people in your life, (or conflicted parts of yourself), to deal with emotional injuries or disturbances that have been previously unresolved leading to greater inner peace!

With Couples therapy we ask:

Do you and your partner truly understand and value each other? Are your arguments often critical or defensive? Are you caught in a cycle of negative interactions? Do you withdraw and stop communicating for days when feeling undervalued? Do you feel your partner will be there for you when you need them most?

During our work together, I take a neutral stance and observe the process between you. I understand that safety and trust issues exist within a distressed relationship and I support you by creating a safe, supportive environment with no judgement.

Individual therapy

We will meet for an initial assessment, where I will ask questions about your childhood relationships, what was modelled to you and how you sought and received comfort in those relationships.

 Together we will get a sense of what your attachment styles have been and how things have played out in your adult relationships within the family, romantically or work and friendships. Together we will get a sense of where the pain is.

Couples Therapy

In our first session we will meet together to discuss what brings you to therapy. Both partners will have the change to have their say. We will discuss how you met, how long you have been together, what your strengths are and together we will explore where things started to go wrong.

The second and third sessions involve me meeting you individually to discuss your relationship history, going back to your childhood to understand your experience of attachment relationships.

In the fourth session, we meet altogether and discuss your shared goals for the therapy. For the remainder of the sessions we will all meet together.

Sessions can be 60 minutes or 90 minutes. 

Additional Info:

My philosophy is non-pathologising, I don’t view clients as problems to be solved or objects to be labelled. Each person I meet is a unique individual and I am interested in how each individual experiences emotions, relationships and life itself.

I hold a First Class Honours degree in Person Centred Therapy from the University of Warwick and continue to enjoy self development and training courses that ensure that I do not become complacent in my therapeutic practice. During this training, I specialised in supporting clients who has been traumatised by sexual violence, rape and abuse. 

I am trained in Emotionally Focussed Couplers Therapy, completing the Externship and Core Skills courses. I have also worked as a volunteer trainer with British Emotionally Focussed Therapy Centre and the Ireland Emotionally Focussed Therapy Centre.

I offer sessions between these hours:

Mondays 9am - 7.30pm

Tuesdays 2pm - 7.30pm

Wednesdays 9am  - 4pm

Thursdays 9am - 4pm 

Fridays 9am - 4pm

Hi my name is Jules and I am an Emotionally Focused Couple’s Therapist. I work with couples online and also in person from my office in Rugby. 

 I work with couples who are struggling with conflict, communication and distress in their relationship. Maybe you have become disconnected over the years and feel more like strangers, or maybe you’re recovering from an affair. Our work together will focus on the negative patterns and habits that you find yourselves in and the unresolved relationship injuries that are holding you back and causing your relationship to feel stuck in rut. Together we will work on creating a safe space where you can better understand each other’s feelings and fears and see how this has impacted on your relationship. The aim is to rebuild your emotional bonds and connection.

I have evening and daytime slots available. I work with couples on a weekly basis (this is necessary if our work together is to gain some traction).  

Using the emotionally focused therapy model, we first work on the here and now of identifying the negative pattern of interaction that contributes to your conflict and discomfort. This process helps you to identify how your insecurities and fears affect their relationship. We also pay attention to issues that may reside in your early attachments and work together to understand how this might play out in present relationships. 

We will look at patterns of shutting down and withdrawing and angry escalations and work together to understand which emotions are driving the behaviours and reactions. There is a focus on identifying the obstacles that have prevented feelings of trust, safety and connection. 

Through the work that we do in the therapy room, couples learn to be emotionally available, empathetic, and engaged with each other, strengthening the attachment bond and creating a safe place between them.

Our focus is not on the reactive behaviour but on the emotions that drive that behaviour, we work in a way that allows each person the opportunity to feel their emotion, to express it and to understand it with their partner's support provides the essence of change for the individual allowing them to move from feeling isolated to being emotionally connected with their partner. 

This process allows couples to interact in a new way and become more emotionally available to each other. 

I offer an initial conversation via zoom. During this time, we discuss what brings you to therapy, and what you would like to get from the therapy. I will say a little bit about how I work and whether I feel able to support you therapeutically. 

If we decide that we feel able to work together, we will compare our diaries and book in the first session. 

Thereafter, I will meet you together for a 60 minute session, in the next two sessions I will see you both individually, and thereafter I will see you together.  

I offer remote sessions via Zoom between these hours:

Mondays 9am - 7.30pm

Tuesdays 2pm - 7.30pm

Wednesdays 9am - 4pm

Thursdays 9am - 4pm

Fridays 9am - 4pm

I am a couples therapist and I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help couples rebuild their emotional connections and strengthen their relationships. In our work we focus on how your emotions  shape both individual behaviour and your relationship dynamic.

At the heart of our work together is the understanding the need to seek secure emotional connections. When these connections are threatened or broken, individuals can experience profound emotional distress, leading to negative interaction patterns.

This mode of couples therapy seeks to create a more secure and positive bond. This process involves identifying and altering the negative cycles of interaction that are perpetuated by unmet emotional needs and fears. 

As you become more attuned to your emotions and those of your partner, you can respond in ways that foster trust, empathy, and intimacy.

Our work together will be structured around three main stages. The first stage is assessment and de-escalation. This involves identifying negative interaction patterns and the emotions driving them.

 In the second stage, restructuring interactions, the therapist helps the couple develop new ways of responding to each other that promote positive emotional engagement. 

The final stage, consolidation and integration, focuses on reinforcing these new interaction patterns and ensuring they are integrated into the couple's daily life.

The techniques used in EFT, help partners hear and understand each other's perspectives. This empathetic engagement allows them to see their partner's behaviour in a new light, reducing conflict and promoting security and closeness. 

During our session we may use some simple practical steps to:

Learn to notice when you begin to disconnect and know how to reconnect again.

Work with each other to connect and deepen your relationship.

Come together and focus on the negative cycle of conflict as the enemy.

To be able to find your own voice and tell your partner how you are doing in the relationship.

Enquiry sessions are offered via Zoom. These last between 30 and 45 minutes. If it feels like we would be able to work together, we book in the first session. This can be for a 60 minute (£100) or 90 minute (£150) duration. We discuss your relationship history from the beginning and address where things may have started to go wrong. 

In the following two meetings, I meet you both separately and we discuss your early relationships and then we meet together again for the fourth meeting and set your goals and objectives. 

I then create a visual map of your relationship, incorporating the dynamics of withdrawal and pursuit and together we build up a picture of how attachment experiences play out in present day situations.