A lot of my clients are women, and the focus of our work is often around re-framing and updating the script of their lives. Is it that we reach a stage in our life where we start to re-evaluate and update what's important to us and what matters? We can be reading from the same script for years that can go unchallenged.听 Having therapy can give you the opportunity to start to focus on the relationship with yourself and really get to know who you are and what you want out of life. Giving yourself some time once a week just for you in a safe, calm space can sometimes plant the seed for more introspection.
Menopause and its symptoms are a reminder to us that our bodies are changing therefore so are its needs, an indication or sign that something needs our attention. It鈥檚 natural to want the physical symptoms to go away but our body and mind are trying to tell us much more. A reminder maybe that it鈥檚 time for other changes in our lives.
Often, I see women who are going through this change, start to have a relationship with themselves, sometimes for the first time. Early conditioning can lead the way in the writing of our scripts and the role that we play in them, it鈥檚 easy to go through life not challenging this mindset. It becomes our normal, our parents鈥� normal and their parents鈥� normal and so on. It鈥檚 not uncommon to go through life on autopilot, it feels normal and familiar. It鈥檚 not until we start to feel anxious, stressed or depressed that we start to notice something is not right.
Having a relationship with yourself is one of the most important relationships to have and is often overlooked whilst being pre-occupied by putting everyone else first. It鈥檚 often seen as being 鈥榮elfish鈥�. I鈥檓 so glad this is changing, and people are able to live a more conscious life, truly believing that they have a choice and it is OK to look after themselves; they don鈥檛 need permission to put themselves first. Its only when we do this, we begin to re-shape our lives. We begin to say no. We begin to have boundaries, and we begin to challenge the ingrained internal belief system when it is out of date and archaic. Having courage to make changes to your life will bring confidence, peace and happiness.
